It’s so difficult at times when our pet is sick or dying — the grief, the uncertainty and not always knowing what to do. In this article, I’d like to share some ideas with you about how to create an ambient environment for your beloved furbaby.
When a person is very sick or dying, they need a quiet and peaceful external environment so that their mind and body can get on with the job at hand—that is, either feeling better or preparing to die in a peaceful state of mind.
It is the same for our furbabies. When they are very sick or dying, they need us to know what to do to help them, to create the best possible environment for them.
Cats and dogs live an average of 15-18 years, and will usually begin to show certain signs of age or illness. They may also contract an illness at a younger age. If you notice any abnormal changes in your pet, have her checked by a vet. If the vet diagnoses that your pet is approaching end of life, then you need to start preparing.
So what can you do?
1. Create ambiance.
Prepare a low-light, warm, quiet secluded place for your pet to rest.
2. Ensure comfort.
Make a warm, soft, comfortable bed with blankets, sheets or towels (or maybe your pet already has his/her own bed).
3. Enable easy access to nourishment.
Place food and water close by if your pet is too weary to walk.
Keep your pet well-hydrated; towards the end you may have to drop the water (or icecube) into their mouth/onto their tongue.
5. Pet, pat, stroke and comfort.
Stroke the fur very gently, or just place your hand gently resting in one spot—let your intuition guide you here as to where to place your hand. Over the heart/chest area is good, as is gently resting your hand on their head.
6. Be with them, talk to them.
Spend time with your pet when you can, speaking softly, slowly, rhythmically and lovingly to them, assuring them how much you love them and that there is nothing to fear.
7. Create peace and calm.
Try to keep the general environment as calm and peaceful as possible, and always handle your pet with extra care.
8. Cry away from your pet.
If you feel like crying, try not to do it around your pet. They need calm reassurance. If you are upset or anxious, they will sense this energy.
9. Use the power of prayer and affirmation.
Recite a prayer or mantra as many times as you can, as often as you can. I’ve provided a suggested prayer …
“Lord God, I ask You to release (name) from all pain, And show him/her the way to eternal peace and happiness. Amen.”
Best wishes, BJ xx
About the Author: BJ Burman
BJ Burman is a writer, researcher, healer, advisor and teacher. All through her childhood and adult life, she has shared her life with animals, every one of them dearly loved. She is also a passionate supporter of animal rights and animal conservation.
In addition, BJ has always been interested in spirituality and religion, both academically and personally. When she became personally involved in Eastern philosophy and religion, she became specifically interested in death & dying (and what really happens to us).
Over the years, she has studied and researched the subject of death & dying, and the associated grief, particularly from a spiritual perspective, under the guidance of respected Buddhist, Hindu and Christian teachers from the USA, Britain and Australia. These great traditions, have so much to teach on the reality of life and death.
BJ has worked in the education sector for nearly 20 years, as a teacher (particularly in a pastoral care role) of adolescents and adults, helping them to not only navigate their path in education, but also navigate their way through personal life obstacles for the happiest outcomes.
Bj holds a Bachelor of Arts in Humanities, a Graduate Diploma of Teaching, Graduate qualifications in Linguistics/TESOL, Masters in Comparative World Religions and is a published author for national and international magazine print publications in the field of health and well-being.
It seems only natural to her to combine her love of animals with her interest in death & dying to create a genuinely compassionate and supportive forum for humans who must say good-bye to the animals they love so much.
It is BJ's deep desire to provide guidance and comfort for humans to help their beloved animals live and die in peace.